Lessons Learned from Moving to a New City

It’s seriously crazy that I’m saying this, but this past Friday marked my second anniversary of living in Chicago! Last year I wrote about lessons learned in my first year, and those three lessons all ring true today. I’ve continued to grow in my independence (which is one of my greatest achievements), am still trying to take advantage of all this amazing city has to offer, and becoming more confident in the path that God has carved out for me. With that said, I thought it might be fun to do a ’round two’, and share more of the lessons learned from moving to a new city.

Learning What’s Most Important

Living in a new city forces you to pick your priorities and decide what’s most important to you. For instance, you may find yourself missing your friends and family back home, but decide that pursuing a career in your new city is what matters most at the moment – or vice versa. It’s definitely a sobering experience, and has made me feel like more of an “adult” when it comes to making those decisions. The most important to thing to remember is that when making those choices, you have to make them based upon what’s best for you – and only you. It may be tempting to take other people’s opinions into consideration, but no one understands what you value most more than you.

Balancing Friendships

This has been something at the top of my mind for the past two years. I consider myself extremely lucky for the fact that I have amazing best friends back at home from middle school and all the way through college. I love them dearly, and oftentimes wish I could be at home to spend more time with them. That’s when balancing and prioritizing comes into place. While you may not always be able to hang out with them physically, it’s important to maintain those friendships by talking and sharing life experiences all the time, and visiting whenever you’re available. By maintaining that consistent contact, it feels as if you never left.

On the flip side, moving to a new city also forces you to prioritize meeting new people and developing friendships. Seeing which friends who have made it into this second year with me is awesome and extremely special. I feel grateful that I’ve been able to make such great friends out here, and know that they will be in my life for a long time – no matter where we may live.

Strength and Resiliency

In the past two years there have been multiple times when my strength has been tested – both in my personal life and in my career – and I’ve learned that I have the resiliency to fight through them and stick it out. Whenever I’ve experienced a troubling time, it always feels like I won’t make it through, but I have. Thankfully God has blessed me and held my hand through it all, but it makes me feel proud that there’s resiliency deep down inside of me. If you had talked me to two years ago, I’m not sure if I would have been able to see it within myself!

These past two years in Chicago have been such a whirlwind, and I can’t wait to see what else is in store for me!

Shop the post:

Top: Nordstrom Rack (identical – have this in two colors and it’s so comfy!) // Skirt: ASOS // Heels: Kenneth Cole // Purse: Bloomingdales (similar) // Sunglasses: Prada

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  1. 9.6.18
    Leah said:

    Moving to a new city is so hard! Def good advice here!

    xx Leah / http://www.leahbehr.com

    • 9.12.18
      Lauren O. said:

      Thanks a lot, Leah! Glad you liked it!

  2. 8.22.18
    Tina said:

    You are so brave for moving to a new city! I’ve always lived in Washington but moved from a smaller town to Seattle. It was a big difference for me but I can’t imagine how different it would be if I moved to a different state! You look so cute btw. I scheduled the first photo for pinning 🙂


    • 9.12.18
      Lauren O. said:

      Thanks so much, Tina! And I totally understand that – I went to school in state, but four hours away from my home and it was still a huge adjustment! I cried my first night haha!

  3. 8.19.18
    Kate Bk said:

    I’m going to share this post with a friend… who just moved from Cleveland to Chicago, actually!

    • 9.11.18
      Lauren O. said:

      Thanks so much, Kate! And you’re kidding! Do you know why she decided on the move?!

  4. 8.13.18
    Aitza B said:

    I’m glad you’ve been able to maintain your long distance friendships and still find them fulfilling.

  5. 8.13.18
    Aitza B said:

    I’m glad you’ve been able to maintain your long distance friendships for so long. It can be tough.

    • 8.13.18
      Lauren O. said:

      Thanks a lot, Aitza! It’s definitely been a struggle, but something that is very important to me! 🙂

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